Divorce fayre.

[Lily]

Just been listening to a conversation on radio 4 about a " divorce fayre " to be held in London this weekend.

The conversation went on to discuss the fact that people are now being encouraged ( motivated by fat cats wanting to get fatter ), to have parites to " celebrate " their divorce and apparently, you can even buy " congratulations on your divorce " cards ( not seen any myself but not been looking ).

Question I wanted to ask was, Is there nothing in this world that is now not a " Hallmark moment " ?

Divorce, years ago was a feeling of shame. It then moved to sad, what has happened in society that it is now something to be celebrated ?

I felt a sense of shame when I split from my husband but only a sense of shame in that I felt a total and utter failure as a wife. I now know different and know that, I wasn't the failure, he was but I still, even though I am glad to be away from him, feel " very " sad that it went the way it did. It's very sad when two people who once loved eachother end up almost hating eachother, no matter what the circumstances of the split.
When I get that divorce alsolute in my hands, I will shed a tear because I still don't see it as a waste. Why would I ? I have a Son who I love from that union.

What do you think ?

[smellycat]

if they can make money they will manipulate a situation.

people are treating marriage like there work.
if somthing better comes along they change.
or newer model etc.

marriage is a very personal and intimate.
these days its wham bam thankyou mam.

to be honest educating young adults on what marriage actually means.would be best.

and learn the young girls how to cook,instead of waiting for the DING.

[eddybear]

I remember one case involving friends of ours who live near us, when part of me was glad to hear they had parted. I won't post details, but for years the husband hadn't been treating his wife right, and she finally kicked him out. I was glad to see her finally free from him. Yet at the same time, there is still a sense of sadness that the marriage didn't work. Marriage is sacred, and I can't imagine God celebrating when he sees one fail, even when the situation arises that divorce is the kindest option.

[Steveg]

IMarriage is sacred, and I can't imagine God celebrating when he sees one fail, even when the situation arises that divorce is the kindest option.

I agree Eddy. It's not something to celebrate.

It's always sad, even if it's the best thing in the circumstances.

[smellycat]

Christ won,t leave us,it would be us leaving Christ.diffrent marriage same principles.
we need to be faithful.

[DeaconDan]

Divorce, years ago was a feeling of shame. It then moved to sad, what has happened in society that it is now something to be celebrated ?

Marriage is practically illegal in the US (extra taxes for married people, illegal to "discriminate" based on marital status). Even Christians are busy promoting divorce by worldly standards. I am married, yet women still frequently hit on me.

[Chuckt]

My mother in law knows a couple that got divorce and it cost $20,000 which would pay for a pretty good car. I think the only ones who win are the lawyers.

Unfortunately it is an imperfect world and marriage unites two sinners and marriage is very difficult as a result of that. I wish I knew more when I got married but some of the books written on marriage aren't enough and some of the pastors who get ordained don't know enough.

[smellycat]

that is a bigger understanding.
the lawyers thank God for divorce and criminals.
there are always winners and losers.

[Galaen]

It is a sad state of affairs when divorce is celebrated and marriage is discouraged as it now appears to be in society. Single mother? don't worry we will give you somewhere to live. No money? don't worry we will give you some. Married? Then you can't have as much as those who are cohabiting. And we are supposed to believe that this is a Christian country? Then where are our Biblical standards?

[eddybear]

Single mother? don't worry we will give you somewhere to live. No money? don't worry we will give you some.

Sounds good to me! It's an example of grace to those in need.

Married? Then you can't have as much as those who are cohabiting.

But I do agree with you here. That is not grace, that is ungodly discrimination.